A huge part of healing from the toxic affects of past trauma is learning how to trust yourself and trust others. If we don't have trust, we have nothing. If we don't have trustworthy people in our life it can become unstable and unpleasant.

There's this myth that woman are the only people pleasers on earth. Men simply benefit from women being people pleasers for centuries but this is simply not true. We cannot give credit to just one gender. In my experience men are secretly on the same boat!

Most importantly boundaries are about connection and separateness. It allows us to open up and bring things in to share an experience and separate, to have space and define this is me, that i them so that not everything is coming at you and becoming who you are.

In this video I teach about the 3 main parts of our brain:
1. The brainstem
2. The limbic brain
3.The higher thinking brain
If overwhelming experiences happen our brain cannot develop properly nor can it function properly causing mental and physical dis-eases. If you've ever wondered why we cannot heal trauma by simply talking about it you don't want to miss this video.

When a person of colour experiences a lifetime of racism it often shows up in our body as shame. The somatic physiological experience of 'I'm not worthy enough, I'm not good enough, I'm unlovable, I'm unacceptable because of the colour of my skin' can be a lifetime source of ongoing suffering.

Toxic shame can be physically and emotionally painful where is healthy shame teaches us how to repair and self-inhibit so our culture remains safe and structured. Understanding how shame works in our bodies and the bodies of our communities and world is tremendously important.

If we look at movies like the Joker we can understand how a consistent lack of safety in the home environment can lead to mental and physical illness as well as misuse of survival energies later on in life. Annihilation energy is simply that ~ our life force energy that's programmed for survival. Just like a husky has a high prey drive and is an excellent hunter it is programmed into their DNA to hunt a rabbit so it can eat and survive.

Have you ever been on autopilot and lashed out in a relationship?Walking around the world all wound up all the time is dangerous for ourselves and the people around us. It doesn't feel good to blow up!